When was the last time you were dreaming about changing your life? To live a different life: where you were happy, fulfilled, without worries or financial strains. You know, when your life was on track and you had this great job, perfect health, loving relationships, and active life, where stress, anxiety and overwhelm were just words without any meaning to you?
Can you even remember?
If you’re still thinking about the answer because it was that long time ago, it’s about time to dream again.
Dreaming is not hard
If you struggled with visualising a better life before covid hit, last year brought that struggle to another level. I’m guessing 2020 was a year where even if you had dreams you put them on hold. A lot of us did because it’s hard to dream when you don’t know what the next day would look like.
I get it.
But what if I told you that despite all that, you were still dreaming? Yes, you.
You daydream all the time even if you don’t realise it.
Daydreaming sometimes called ‘mind wondering’ happens to all of us. Although it happens to us unconsciously aka, we don’t plan for it to happen, we can catch ourselves doing it. It’s that mellow feeling you get when you let go of your reality and a vault of possibilities opens up.
Daydreaming has a bad rap because most studies emphasise the negative impacts on our lives such as lack of focus or productivity and overall inability to get things done. Have you ever tried talking to your significant other or your kids when they’re daydreaming? They are physically here, but they can’t hear a word of what you’re saying. They are imagining, the unimaginable.
Although their lack of attention can certainly increase your agitation, daydreaming is actually very good for your mental health.
First of all, it’s a coping mechanism you use to survive throughout your day with the never-ending stream of data to process. Thanks to daydreaming, you deliver relief to your overloaded brain. You take a pause and distance yourself from the reals of your life, whatever that may be.
Secondly, you enter a state of joy, you become more creative and refreshed because your brain just had a ‘mini break’ from the stress of your daily life. A short moment of daydreaming may help you to regather your thoughts or motivation and give you a different perspective on a task in hand.
It’s this short period of time when you let go of this world and enter a different dimension creating a world of possibilities.
Anything is possible
We often look at our lives and think this is it. We know we may need to change a few things in life, to achieve what we want. And although, some changes may be hard to make, more often than not we can’t even see the path which can lead us towards that change. This view not only stops you from making any changes, but it limits what is possible in your life. And as Henry Ford said: ‘If you think you can or cannot do it, you’re right’.
You may argue that ‘it is what it is’, that life is full of chores either we like it or not, that it’s hard to factor in a morning exercise routine, stop eating junk food and stay off alcohol or cope with the stress and overwhelm you experience. If you can’t see how things are possible, the default option is to think that certain things are just out of reach for you.
I know how you’re feeling. Being an optimist can be challenging at times, but daydreaming shouldn’t.
Take a big breath and let yourself dream. What if anything was possible in your life?
No questions asked, no bias, no judgement on your answers.
How would you feel if you were in the best shape of your life? How would you feel waking up at the morning full of energy and knowing that you’re living an active life?
What if you learnt something new, developed a new skill, or maybe re-used a skill you already possess but stopped using it a long time ago? What would be possible in your life then?
How would your life be different if you were anxious free, stress free, and developed a coping mechanism which would support and nourish your body and mind?
What would it be like to be financially secured, debt-free, or have your finances under control so you can buy that new house, put your kids through the school of their dreams and not worry about the funding?
How would your life be different if you spend more time with the people you truly love and care about? How would you feel if you deepened your relationships, so your friendships were meaningful connections?
How would you feel as the best version of yourself?
Take a breath right now and let yourself slip into some daydreaming.
Conclusion
You see, for something to happen you need to first believe it’s possible. If you limit yourself with what is possible in your life, you limit the possibilities in your life. Thinking that there is a limited number of options for you makes you feel stuck in your life. And really anything is possible in life, isn’t it?
You can have a meaningful relationship with your significant other, you can be full of energy and live an active life, you can control the unhealthy food and alcohol intake, you can live your healthiest, best version of yourself. It is possible to take the first step towards taking control of your life, the stress and overwhelm you feel.
This is all possible and within reach, and the best time to start dreaming big is now. Don’t go into the guilt spiral with the imaginary shortcomings. Give yourself permission to reach out for the possibilities. Dream big. It’s free and the sky is really the only limit.
So, tell me what’s your biggest dream?
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