3 things you need to know to set yourself for a success

Updated: Nov 10, 2021

In my previous blog I invited you to create a vision of you (read it here if you missed it). So much happened last year, that for some it was challenging to stay on course. As you emerged as a New You, creating a vision gave you that needed clarity. You have the destination and now it is time to figure out how to get there. Only by taking action you can create change. And setting goals will do just that: help you to move towards your vision.

I know what you are thinking: you tried setting goals before and it didn’t work, so why bother? You had everything planned, you were motivated to start with, but somehow it didn’t happen. Don’t beat yourself up, most likely you just didn’t have the missing puzzle in how to create goals which can be accomplished. I have great news for you! I am about to change the way you think about setting goals. Read on to find out the 3 key things you need to know while creating goals to set yourself for a success.

1. Your goals need to be behavioural goals

The first key is the type of goals you are setting. Did you want to lose weight? Or maybe be more relaxed and calmer? Did you want to stick to your exercise routine? The goals are great, but you didn’t accomplish them, right? It didn’t work because you were setting outcome goals.

We are wired to think about the instant outcome we want to achieve. And that is great but setting outcome goals is thinking about what we want to happen, rather than thinking how to make it happen. Outcome goals are the New Year’s Resolution goals. Each year we set the same goal, yet each year we fail to achieve it. Most likely there was nothing wrong with the goal itself. You can take the same goal, but you need to set it as a behavioural goal.

Behavioural goals are goals focusing on taking action. The goal is the ‘doing’ part which takes you to the outcome you want. This means the goals need to be set around a particular behaviour you need to keep doing to see the results. Let’s say you want to eat healthier. That’s great, but the goal itself won’t motivate you to take action. There is no specific behaviour which will help you to move towards your desired outcome. If you set this goal as drinking 3 glasses of water a day instead of soda and eating salad for lunch five times a week, you are creating a specific behaviour which will help you to eat healthier.

2. Put a deadline on it

The second component in creating goals you can achieve, is related to timing. Yes, goals need to be SMART. So, goals need to be specific, measurable, attractive, realistic and with a timeframe to be classified as goals. The more specific you can get of what you need to be doing to achieve what you want, the better chances of actually doing it. The more boxes you can tick from the SMART acronym, the better chances of going through. Our brains can only recognise specifics. If an idea is vague and our brain needs to think about actions associated with it, it burns to much energy and our willpower diminishes. So, the more specific you are, the better.

However, even the most crafted goal without a deadline is just a dream. You can tell yourself to eat better, exercise more, improve your sleeping habits or lose 5kilos. But if you don’t tell yourself when you want to get this done by, it will never happen. Have you ever had a deadline for a project to finish? That deadline worked as a motivator to actually finish that project. It worked, because we are wired to look for the finish line.

Take a moment now, look at your goals and put deadline on them. Examine how much time you need to achieve each one of them. How difficult are they to achieve? Are they ambitious? Do you already have the skills and expertise you need to successfully complete them? How much time will it take you to make the progress you want? Be realistic, don’t say that you lose 20kilos in one month because not only you are putting a lot of pressure on yourself, but you are setting yourself to fail before you even started.

Also challenge yourself. Don’t give yourself three months to do something, you know can be realistically accomplished in two. Some level of a challenge needs to be incorporated into your goal to keep it attractive. Otherwise, you will get bored and unmotivated to carry on.

As with setting goals you need to be specific, be very specific with your deadline too. Write down the exact date, day of the week and time you want to achieve this goal. This way you have a clear timeframe and clear finish line.

3. Be consistent

You put an exact date and time when you want your behavioural goal to be achieved. That is fantastic! Now, is time to start doing it. You know by now, that going to the gym once a month didn’t create those abs you wanted. Do you know why? It is because one off action, doesn’t produce lasting results. Can you guess what the third component is? Yes, you got it! It is consistency.

You are building new healthy habits to support you in this journey, and you need to be consistent. This means you need to keep repeating the same behaviour over and over, so it develops into a habit. Once it becomes a habit, it happens automatically, and you don’t have to keep fighting with yourself to go to the gym anymore. You change into your gym clothes, you grab your gym bag and off you go! Now, you don’t even think about it.

Consider the old saying ‘Rome wasn’t built in a day’. That make sense, but you also must know that each and every day they were laying bricks. The same goes for your goal. One off big action won’t create the change you need. The same action, done repeatedly, will make it much easier for you to stick to. It will create momentum and set you for success!


The ultimate difference between succeeding with your goals and not being able to achieve them lies in the type of goals you are setting. Focusing on the outcome alone, won’t create it. But if you focus on the specific behaviour, then you enter on the path to achieving anything you want. Once you create a SMART behavioural goal, putting a deadline on it will program your brain to take action because you can see the finish line. Nothing is achieved overnight, with one off action, so consistently performing the same behaviour will make you build a momentum and take you to that outcome you desire.

Are you ready to set some amazing behavioural goals? I am sure you are! What are your behavioural goals then?

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